[disclosure] Engaged? Congrats! Here are five books you should read during your engagement!
My husband and I took the approach that we couldn’t get enough information and input before we got married. I’m not talking about the input where people want to throw their opinions at you, but truly seeking Godly counsel about our future marriage. Because of that we did premarital counseling, met with older couples for wisdom, and read lots of books. We also took the marriage advice we received from our closest friends and family to heart.
Since our anniversary is coming up this weekend, I wanted to share with you a few books I really believe in. These are books I think you should read while you’re engaged or while you’re newlyweds. When it comes to preparation for getting married, my philosophy is why wouldn’t?you equip yourself with lots of knowledge before going into a lifelong?commitment like this? You would read a book or seek advice before starting a business or buying a house, so why should marriage be any different?
You don’t necessarily have to read this book before you get engaged, but if you’re unsure about the person you are thinking about marrying, this is a good book to work through some of those doubts. It asks all kinds of questions on different topics like faith, money, children, etc., that really help you think through some tough issues. Once you are engaged, it’s a great book to start conversations about a lot of topics. It’s also just great for getting to know each other!
This is honestly one of my favorite books. Gary Chapman has a great sense of humor and this book is a great easy read. This was the first book I read on marriage and it may have been before we were even engaged. I think my entire copy was highlighted because it’s packed full of such great info. It’s a great read even if you are married. My favorite chapter is called “I wish I had known that toilets are not self cleaning.” Amen, y’all.
Knowing your spouse or future spouse’s love language is one of the best foundations for a marriage. This is helpful for all relationships though, even friendships!
This book should be reserved for when you are very close to getting married or even as a honeymoon read. The reason I say that is because this book looks at sex within the context of marriage. It isn’t just another “wait until you’re married book” though, it’s a book that talks about the physical aspect and making sure both the husband and wife are satisfied. It talks about the physical anatomy of a woman and how female bodies were designed to enjoy sex. So this is a book to be cautious of but the Christian perspective on enjoying sex is really worth a read.
This book takes a look at our fundamental needs as husbands and wives. It explains how women and men are wired differently and need different things to feel secure within a relationship. It approaches conflict from a biblical perspective which is something that is so important to me.
Just as a side note, these books are great but they are no replacement for reading your Bible. They are all based on biblical truths and should be used as tools to go along side the Bible.