Being in a relationship with someone has many aspects to it, some that we don’t always think about daily. There is obviously the daily communication, attraction to someone, values, etc. A huge component to what I believe is a successful relationship is being on the same page spiritually as the person you are with. Today I want to share some ways that you can increase spiritual intimacy, if you are in an appropriate relationship to do so.
Spiritual compatibility?gets increasingly more important the more serious the relationship becomes and once you get to a point of being engaged to someone or married, spiritual intimacy is extremely important. Our spiritual lives are often thought of as a one person relationship with God, which that is obviously a part of it. But once you get married or are on the track to getting married, you become one. Therefore alongside your personal relationship with God, there is also an aspect of?having a relationship with God as a couple.
Here are some ways to increase spiritual intimacy and build up that relationship:
Read Your Bibles
Reading along with each other or simply encouraging one another to read and have quiet time is so important. Admittedly it’s not our strong suite, but that doesn’t change the value of it. Immersing yourself and your relationship in the truth within the Bible is so important. Having a firm foundation on the Truth is a cornerstone to having an intimate spiritual relationship.
Even if it’s a prayer before dinner, praying together centers your relationship around the Lord. One of my favorite things is when we sit down for dinner and Steven prays over our food, our days and our future. It’s such an easy task that really does align our marriage with God. Find a time where it’s easy to pray together every day whether that’s over dinner, before bed, first thing in the morning, whatever you can commit to as a couple. Related: Praying for Your Husband
Get Involved Together
Attending a church together is the first step to getting involved and is very important. Listening to the same sermons together and being able to talk about them can really help you learn the other person’s beliefs and it can also be used to challenge each other and encourage each other for Christ! You can also get involved at your church through ministries, small groups, or Bible studies.
Going through devotionals is great for couples who may want a guided resource.
Sex (within the context of a Biblical marriage) is an act of worshiping God. At first it might be a strange phrase to hear especially if you haven’t heard it before but God designed sex for husbands and wives to enjoy together and to worship Him. Having a healthy sex life as a married couple is a vital part in creating spiritual intimacy as well. Both play hand in hand with each other.
These are just a few ways that spiritual intimacy can become a priority in your marriage. I do want to make sure to disclaim that this advice should only be considered by couples who are engaged (with the guidance of a premarital counselor or pastor) or married. If you are engaged, sexual intimacy is something you can begin discussing as long as you are sure to set boundaries that safeguard both of you against temptations.
Related post: Five Books to Read While Engaged